Christian Women Should Never Marry These Men

For single women who are out there I believe you would love to get married to someone you will live with happily and go through challenges together. With many divorces surrounding you and news about marriages that are not working ringing in your ears, your dreams of getting married are probably becoming hopeless. I believe God is a match maker and is in the business of match making. Don’t settle for less when giving into a relationship but settle for God’s best. It is better to stay single that to end up in the hands of a wrong man. By the way here are the men you should never marry:

1.      A non-believer- 2 Corinthians 6:14 commands us not to be yoked or bound together with non-believers, for what business does the righteousness and lawlessness have or what fellowship does light and darkness have? For example you may believe the Word of God that says pre-marital sex is a sin and whoever loves should wait till marriage. But the unbelievers believe if someone loves you they should have sex with you. As a Christian woman you may end up compromising your faith.

2.      A player – The fact that a man is attending church every Sunday or is participating in the church programs does not mean he is the right man for you especially if he has been sleeping around with other women. If a man was a player by the time you married him there is a chance that he will still be sleeping around even after you get married.

3.      A Liar- If you find out that the man has been lying about things in his present or past life you should flee. Trust is  the foundation of marriage and the two of you must be open to each other about anything. He will deceive you in marriage if he is keeping truth from you today.

4.      An Addict – Some men who go to church may be hiding their problem through drugs and alcohol. You may be surprised immediately after the wedding that he is a drunkard. If you have a man who is an addict insist that he gets professional help and go your way. Don’t console yourself that your presence in the relationship will change him. You cannot change him only God can at His own opportune time.

5.      A male chauvinist or control freak- There are some Christian men who still believe men are superior than women dismissing the fact that God created men and women equal but with different roles. Those are men who believe only their opinion matter. Deep down their authority they are insecure and full of pride and may cause spiritual abuse to you. “1 Peter 3:7 says husbands should treat their wives as equals. If the man in your life pulls you down or trashes your ideas and comments about women as being objects then you better go away. They may quote the scripture in a wrong way and become control freaks religiously.

6.      A baby boy or mama’s boy- Is your man at age 30 years and above, and still lives with his parents? Is his mother still cleaning, cooking and ironing for him? Does he say ‘let me ask my mother first’ before he makes a decision? If yes he enjoys sitting on the warm lap of his mother. This man is not grown up and you will be in trouble if you try to get married to him.

7.      An abuser – Men who have a problem of loosing control when angry more often are abusive. If your man is fast to throw insults at you or others when angry or even practice physical abuse by hitting you or others please don’t justify their behaviour. If you marry them they will hurt you some day. We have cases of where some men have killed their wives and you don’t have to be a victim.

8.      Self-absorbed- Be careful if  the man you are dating is in love with his own appearance. He may look cute and handsome but spends most of his time in the gym and posting about his biceps on social media. Such a man will never put your needs first before his and he will never notice how smart or beautiful you are.

9.      Lazy or sluggard- Men were given a role of providing for his family and have built-in capabilities. Women have built-in expectations to be provided for. If the man you are dating has no job and has no interest in finding one and spends his day playing video games while you work then be sure he will never provide for you and your children when you get married. You will be a professional wife working and paying all bills and feeding him. Just like 2 Thessalonians 3:10 says that a man who is not willing to work should not eat, then a man who is not willing to work should not marry you.