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Does Your Relationship Meet These Standards? TRUE LOVE (Part 1)

Many questions have  been asked regarding the nature of relationships. Questions like "How do I know that my spouse loves me?". There are common comments like "He is not patient but he loves me", or "I know she loves me but she always want things her way".
You don't need to crack your head trying to figure out how love in a relationship should be measured.I believe there are universal standards on love and relationship. These are guidelines to any relationship that involves love. Through this you can be able to tell if you are in a relationship with the right person or not.

 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.Love never fails"

1. Love is Patient
This involves patiently putting up with your partner. It means being slow to anger and not responding to your partner with irritation or resentment. Patiently reason with each other over the issue at hand. During times of difficulties the two of you need to be capable of waiting for things to get better without getting upset. If your partner gets easily irritated, is not understanding and can easily throw something at you, then you better think twice about the relationship.

2. Love is kind
Kindness is part of the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). Love and kindness are connected. Someone who loves you will handle you with sympathy and consideration.Other words that describe kindness are compassionate, gentle, loving, caring, thoughtful, tender, friendly, forgiving, nurturing, generous, unselfish, helpful and supporting among others. The opposite of kind is 'cruel'. A cruel person is one who inflicts you with pain and suffering. He or she mistreats you, cheats on you with other people without considering your feelings, uses abusive words on you, and so on.

3. Love Does Not Envy
Jealousy is also used instead of envy. It boil or burn with anger or hatred. Some people may envy their spouse's success to the point they wish he or she would not succeed. Someone who is envious is the one that has a feeling discontented with what he or she has and wishes she or he would have the possession, luck, blessing or qualities belonging to his or her spouse. If you and your partner are competing to get ahead of each other and sometimes trying to pull each other down, then may be you should reconsider your feelings. If you love someone you will want him or her to be successful in what they do even if they are ahead of you. You need to support each others dreams and encouraging each other to get ahead.

4. Love Does Not Boast
To boast is to brag out oneself. It does contrary to patience and kindness and does not represent love. A boastful person is also arrogant. To love means to focus on the other person, not on yourself. Someone who brags is full of himself, he highly brags of what he has accomplished and is too occupied with  self glorification that he does not notice others. If a person loves you he or she will boost you, focus on your needs and will help you will no expectation of being recognized.



5. Love is Not Proud
A proud person is one who is puffed up or 'with a big head'. This is someone who has high opinion about him/herself. Where there is pride godly does not exist. Love is selfless, it does not focus on oneself but on others. He is never satisfied with loving and admiring himself. A humble partner will complement you and others. A friend of mine used to date a man who used to look down upon her friends, family and anyone he met. He always thought his thinking was highly than her and other people, his house was better than her family, his church was big and better than hers and tried to change him to be like him. The lady wasn't happy and she decided to live. Who can stand a proud person?

6. Love Does Not Dishonour Others
This means love does not bring shame to or disgrace another person. To dishonour is to humiliate or to degrade your partner. You can dishonour your spouse by the way you conduct yourself, what you say, how you say it, how you present yourself, by your appearance and attitude. You dishnour your partner if you  respond to him in a harsh manner before his friends, flirting with other people, name calling, not wearing clothes they he wants, dressing immodestly with no concern of him, yelling at him in disagreement, viewing pornography, cheating on him with other people, and so on. What would relationships and marriages look like if we all honoured our spouses?

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